Are You Biased?
There was a situation that involved two brothers and one sister and the dad favored the brothers more than the sister. The dad would spend more time with the boys than with his daughter. He would take the boys to their sporting events and whenever his daughter desired to do something, he was always preoccupied. This is a perfect example of favoritism. It is important not to be biased showing some of our children more love and attention than others. The results of this situation can cause the daughter to be distant. Although, it’s not the boys’ fault that the dad shows favoritism, this often causes problems among siblings. The sister began to reject her brothers, feeling that they are participating in the favoritism. This affected their relationship and the bond they shared because she no longer cared to be around her brothers. She began to try to sabotage the relationship that her brothers shared with their dad.
We should never show favoritism because the bible let’s know it’s important to love everyone equally. Proverbs 24:23 “These also are sayings of the wise, to show partiality in judgement is not good.” Favoritism can build hatred in a person’s heart. When a person gets hatred in their heart they are not thinking clearly because they are operating in ways that are spiteful. This posture blocks a person with this type of heart from receiving blessings from God and developing a relationship of love with Him. 1 John 4:20 “If anyone says I love God and hates his brother he is a liar; for he who does not love his brother who he has seen cannot love God whom he has not seen.”
Favoritism can blind side a person because it is thinking less of one party and thinking more highly of another. If a person can spend more time with one person and less with another, there is something in the person, and that is bias. If we make it an obligation to love all parties the same, we will spend the same amount of time and show the same level of love to all people.
It’s important to love everyone just as we want others to love us. Matthew 7:12 “So in everything, do to others what you would have them do to you, for this sums up the law and prophets.”
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