Marriage is A Gift

Sunny D

After 29 years of marriage, I’ve learned a lot about my spouse, myself and our marriage. During the first few years of holy matrimony, my husband and I exercised trust, understanding, teamwork, empathy and love. Our marriage seemed perfect but it wasn’t. We had failed to put God first. Don’t get me wrong, God was a part of our lives but God was not first in our lives. Matthew 6:33 tells us that we should “seek first the kingdom of God and his righteousness.” Throughout our lives together we’ve learned that a successful marriage starts with God, man and woman. Husbands and wives are blessings from God. Proverbs 18:22 says “He who finds a wife finds a good thing. And obtains favor from the Lord.” Therefore we should rejoice in our gifts from God. So today and everyday let’s work on building a Christ-centered Marriage by starting with you.

  • Adjust your attitude. You might not be able to change your spouse, but you can change yourself.

  • Show affection and warmth. Simple gestures can change your spouse’s mood and the atmosphere in your home.

  • Offer encouragement. It takes nine affirming comments to make up for one critical comment. If you are like most people, you owe your spouse a boatload of encouragement. Watch for opportunities to give your husband or wife an affirming word.

  • Give sexual intimacy the time and attention it deserves. Are you too tired to work on this? Then your priorities are in the wrong place. Find at least two hours per week to spend on romance and intimacy. And flirt with your spouse—remind him or her that you’re attracted to them.

  • Make friends with your spouse. The basic principles of friendship apply to marriage, too: friends tend to have more patience with each other; they extend grace, forgiveness, and kindness towards one another; and they have fun together.

  • Schedule (yes, schedule!) more fun in your marriage. Look for creative date ideas—don’t just go out for dinner and a movie. Your willingness to put some thought into enjoyable, out of the-ordinary things to do together will speak volumes to your spouse.

  • Practice “thank therapy.” Sit down today and list at least twenty reasons why you are grateful for your spouse.

  • Accept that not all problems are resolvable. Some problems will always be in our lives in one form or another. Find a workable solution you can both live with.

  • Nurture spiritual growth. Start by praying daily for your spouse and your relationship. Besides attending worship services together, develop a regular time to practice spiritual disciplines such as devotions, bible study, prayer, and reading.

  • Review and renew your marriage vows. Vow renewal ceremonies are often more meaningful than the wedding. Reviewing and renewing your vows will move you toward spiritual intimacy—as you read over your vows, you will be surprised to see how often the AWE factor is present in the words, symbols, and the ceremony itself.

Until next time…

Sunny D

Marriage Retreat: April 5-8, 2017

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