The Abraham Monthly
Masking the Hurt
(21 Years Old)
In life we experience hurt and pain, but we very seldom sit down to think about others who have been hurt. When you think of the definition of hurt, what is it? Being hurt is a one of the leading causes of depression, anxiety and suicide. I have personally been hurt time and time again. If I do not talk to someone, it can lead to over-thinking, being over-whelmed and suffering from PTSD (Post Traumatic Stress Disorder). When you talk to an individual that has been hurt, even if their pain cannot be felt, can you see it in their eyes? If your answer to the question is, “Yes.” Do you do anything to try to comfort them in hopes of relieving their pain? If your answer to the question is, “No.” Do you ask them if they are hurting? We take being hurt and experiencing pain for granted, but you never know what real hurt or pain is until you have been through it.
I’ve had a friend who experienced hurt and pain to an outstanding limit of discomfort. When he came to school, he would always try to put on a fake smile just to get through the day. He was smart, funny, and always helping others as well as putting others before himself. Needless to say, back at home things were not going right for him, but he did not know how to express himself. One day, he came to school with tears in his eyes and bandages on his arm. When he was asked what happened he lied and stated that he was in “an accident.” Truth be told, the hurt extended to a level that he started to cause self-harm to himself. He tried talking to counselors and other students that he thought he could trust, but it became too overwhelming for him. His mother had passed away the day before and he was really considering taking his own life away. He had one friend that he could trust to tell all of his secrets to, only to find out that the friend wasn’t really a friend. He talked about him and this revealed that nobody can be trusted, although he still found it in his heart to forgive him.
The day of his mom’s funeral, he had family that he had not spoken to in a long time. He had a few friends that knew his mother that came to her service. After the service, a friend from elementary school heard about the news and surprised him by coming to the burial. He was so shocked to see him because they lost touch after he moved away. They hugged and cried for about 30 minutes before finally exchanging real words. The friend new his family very well and the family was also shocked that he came to show support. His friend looked into his eyes and seen a tremendous amount of hurt, pain, depression and anxiety. The friend instantly spoke words of encouragement and started to pray with him letting him know that everything was going to be okay.
Needless to say, that friend who was hurt and going through a lot was “me.” Abraham Bell, a typical, young man that despite my pain, I still had somebody in my corner who cared. God will put people back into your life to make you realize that you’re never alone. So, the next time you see some one you know going through a difficult time...don’t hesitate to just ask…